With this Ring...

In big ways and small, Celebrants embrace the chance to personalize weddings. In “typical” weddings, the ring exchange is generally viewed as a minor coda to the verbal vows. Not so with a Celebrant! First, the ring exchange sets the stage to talk about the symbolism of the object—the ring’s precious metal represents the strength and rarity of true love. Its round shape connotes the infinite nature of love, without a beginning and an end. Moreover, since the ancient Egyptians, the belief is that the vein in the ring finger of the left hand is most directly connected to the heart, hence, its selection as the finger for the placement of the wedding band.

Rings say to the world, “I love,” and “I am loved.” Often, there is special meaning attached to the design or stones in a wedding setting. Lucky brides may have stones or rings that have belonged to cherish a loved one. Or, perhaps, a ring has been individually designed to represent some aspect of the couple’s personality or romantic story. An Irish couple, for example, may choose the traditional Claddagh ring to proclaim their Celtic heritage. And colored stones, now commonplace in engagement rings and wedding bands, have special meanings attached. Last summer, the ring of one of my brides held precious sapphires belonging to the groom’s mother. This gemstone is historically seen as an emblem of heaven, virtue, truth, constancy, and contemplation. The Ruby, another popular wedding gemstone, is associated with nobility, love, contentment, enthusiasm and strength. Rubies are thought to open the heart and promote love and joy in those who wear it.

Noting the specific characteristics of the ring can be complemented by inviting the guests to "bless the rings." In small weddings, the rings may be passed person-to-person before the wedding. Each family member or friend is asked to make a special wish on behalf of the couple’s future happiness.

Remarks about the sentiment and design of rings can be a subtle, artistic thread woven into a personalized ceremony, hardly an afterthought of the exchange of vows.