Gone but not Forgotten

It seems that more and more brides and grooms are interested in paying tribute to relatives who are unable to attend the wedding or have passed on. Obviously during a day of celebration, there is a delicate balance to this part of the ceremony. These thoughtful couples have found many ways to recognize people who have been important in their lives--one of my favorites is the butterfly release. During an outdoor ceremony, the butterfly release can be a spectacular and breathtaking moment, rich in symbolism. Butterflies are such a lovely representation of transformation--for both the bride and groom and their partnership. From a simple beginning, as a larva and then a chrysalis,the butterfly evolves into a stunning creature. Moreover, the word “chrysalis,” the interim step in development, is derived from the Greek word “Chrysos,” which means “gold,” that rare and precious substance so often associated with love, weddings, and prized possessions. Another moving connection to the butterfly can be found in folk traditions of the First Peoples (Native Americas) on our continent. According to the Apache tribe, among others, when a wish is whispered to a butterfly and it is released--the wish is taken to Heaven. As the butterflies depart the ceremony, guests are invited to recall fond memories of the friend or relative who has passed. A touching ritual that adds beauty and meaning to the wedding ceremony.